你是否已經三十多歲

are you stepping into your 30s？

但卻沒有過足夠的約會經歷

But haven’t had much dating experience。

或者如今的你已經離婚幾年了

Or maybe you’ve been divorced for a few years now。

但已經準備好你的下一次邂逅

But you’re ready to enter the dating game again？

你是否認為自己是一個晚熟的人

Whether you consider yourself a late bloomer？

抑或想避免重犯約會的錯誤

Or want to avoid making the same dating mistakes。

這裡有年齡較大者約會的五個小技巧

Here are 5 dating tips when you’re older

1。試試網上約會

1。Give online dating a try

人們總擔心在網上認識奇怪的人

People often fear meeting creeps online

雖然這種現象的確存在 但時代不一樣了

and while they do exist， times are changing。

隨著約會軟體的進步

With the evolution of dating apps，

約會網友已經很常見了

meeting people online has become more common today。

有趣的是我的男朋友就是在一個名叫OKCupid的約會軟體認識的

Here’s a fun fact： my boyfriend and I met on OkCupid。

最關鍵的一點是

What matters most

跟某人聊天之前做好以下判斷

is using good judgment when you decide to talk to someone。

你們家是否離得太遠

Do you guys live too far away from each other？

你們溝通是否順暢

Will commuting be a problem？

當你們第一次見面時

When the two of you meet up for the first time，

應該達成在公共場所見面的意願

make sure you agree upon seeing each other in a well-lit public area，

比如咖啡廳 博物館或是餐館

such as a coffee shop， museum or restaurant，

避免約在晚上的公園或是你倆的家裡

avoid meeting at parks at night or at each other’s homes。

這可以讓面基更安全

This makes the meetup safer。

2。 你不用在約會的時候就想著結婚

2。You don’t have to date with marriage in mind。

誰說的在你二十多歲時只是享樂和放縱

Who said your 20s was only for fun and flings。

只要和你的約會物件提前約定好

As long as you and your partner agree ahead of time

你們目前都不想把約會弄得很嚴肅

that none of you want anything serious at the moment，

你們可以想約多久約多久

you can date casually for as long as you like。

沒必要一到30歲就決定和誰過一生

There’s no need to settle down with someone by the time you turn 30，

特別是當你還沒有約會夠

especially if you haven’t dated much。

如果你不確定你想要什麼 不要著急

If you’re not sure what you want， don’t stress about it。

約會是一個反覆試錯的過程

Dating is all about trial and errors。

確保讓你約會物件也清楚這一點

Just make sure you make this clear with your partner

並且在這一點上達成一致

and you’re both on the same page。

3。不要讓年齡差嚇到你

3。Don’t let age gaps scare you away。

當你的約會物件

Maybe you feel old because your date

不知道你聽的所有樂隊或是你講的笑話

doesn’t know any of the bands you listen to

已經老掉牙了時你會感覺你老了

or you make antiquated jokes no one tells anymore。

但是不要讓年齡差堵住你追求愛情的路

But don’t let age gaps stand in your way of finding romance。

我和我男朋友差八歲

My boyfriend and I are eight years of heart。

當然他一開始也不想和我約會

Sure。 He was reluctant at first to date me

因為他擔憂我不知道我想要什麼

because he was scared that I didn’t know what I want。

顯然當時的他錯了

He was wrong， of course。

只要你倆成年了

As long as the two of you are of legal age，

你們又很來電

if you guys have good chemistry，

年齡不過是數字罷了

age just becomes a number。

更重要的是

What’s more important is

與一個對你來說情感足夠成熟的人約會

dating someone who is emotionally mature enough for you，

年齡並不決定是否成熟 經歷才決定

and age doesn’t determine that， experiences do。

4。試試新事物

4。Try new things。

不要用年齡來拒絕在遊樂園或時髦酒吧

Don’t use your age as an excuse to turn down dates

這些讓你顯老的地方的約會

at the amusement park or trendy bars that make you old。

你也不用費力保持冷靜

You also don’t need to try so hard in order to stay cool。

就像一個俗語所說

As cliche as it sounds，

有人就是喜歡本真的你

someone will like you for who you are。

保持開放思維

Just keep an open mind

你不用著急拒絕那些

and don’t be so quick to turn down opportunities that

令人滿意和值得的機會

can be fulfilling and worthwhile。

5。記住愛沒有保質期

5。Remember love doesn’t have an expiration date。

由於社會的壓力

Thanks to social norms，

當我們到達一個年齡時常常會為

we often have a pressure to get married and have kids

結婚生子而苦惱

by the time we reach a certain age，

即使婚姻會過期

as if there’s an expiration date。

但它不等於愛情

But marriage doesn’t equate to love

孩子也不能修補破損的婚姻

and having kids doesn’t save a broken relationship。

用你感到舒服的節奏生活

Go at a pace you’re comfortable with

別讓他人使你對自己的生活

and don’t let anyone make you feel small

感到卑微

for where you are in life right now。

人們不都知道自己什麼時候成熟

People don’t have all the answers when they grow up。

所以要做好犯錯的準備同時也要享樂

So expect to make some mistakes along the way and have fun。

我們祝你在這個美妙的自我探索路上好運

We wish you the best of luck on this wonderful journey of self-discovery

你是否經驗不豐富或是想再試試？

Are you inexperienced at dating or giving it another try？

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